I haven't seen Gone Girl nor have I read the book (I really want to though), but I did see Lo Bosworth post a quote on Instagram from Gillian Flynn and it stuck with me.
“Men always say that as the defining compliment, don’t they? She’s a cool girl. Being the Cool Girl means I am a hot, brilliant, funny woman who adores football, poker, dirty jokes, and burping, who plays video games, drinks cheap beer, loves threesomes and anal sex, and jams hot dogs and hamburgers into her mouth like she’s hosting the world’s biggest culinary gang bang while somehow maintaining a size 2, because Cool Girls are above all hot. Hot and understanding. Cool Girls never get angry; they only smile in a chagrined, loving manner and let their men do whatever they want. Go ahead, shit on me, I don’t mind, I’m the Cool Girl.”
It stuck with me because as much as girls don't like to admit it - in some ways all girls try to be this girl. The girl who knocks back a couple of Bud Heavy's, ravages a bucket of wings, pretends to be super "chill" - all while managing to look hot doing it is the definition of the "Guys Girl."
You know those girls. The ones that either do it effortlessly or try a little too hard. We've either been that girl, envied that girl or tried to recreate that girl.
As much as Gillian's words are a little on the provocative-side, it couldn't be more true. I know in some ways, I've changed because of a guy. I've tried FIFA. And failed. I've tried to like cheap beers. But vino has clearly prevailed. And I've tried to be that girl at one point in my life.
Whether it was now, in college or high school; we've all tried to be that Cool Girl. The one guys want and supposedly fantasize about. Yes maybe lots of girls are this girl - they actually love football, poker, telling dirty jokes, burping in public and can eat burgers every week and not gain a pound (I envy you). If so, do you girl. But in some way or another we've all been that girl who changes to fit a guys desire.
The real question remains, why be anybody but yourself? If you like football or if you're more into shopping, who cares? If you love rocking rompers, but your boyfriend hates them - screw it. Do you girl.
You're you, there's no one else in this world like you and that, in itself, is cool. Whatever cool means.